I’ve been watching a lot of art videos. A splash of colour, easy strokes of a tool and there you have a masterpiece.
Getting down to action makes us aware of the practice it needs to reach that stage. I worship the artist as accomplished.
A famous actress once revealed that it takes six hours for her to look the way she does at an event. There was a lot of discussion surrounding what could she be actually doing. Maybe the hair extensions, or taping that revealing dress safely in place. Does the makeup artist take an hour to cover her flaws?
Somehow, the charisma was wearing away. She was not ‘naturally beautiful’ or graceful as we had assumed.
Soon after, stories about the cosmetic surgeries she had undergone broke out. She had opened a can of worms.
Celebrities undergo charisma coaching. Rolling the eyes, raising an eyebrow, the half-smile, a flirtatious glance is all well-practised. But onlookers fall prey to the charm.
WHY DO WE WANT TO SEE MIRACLES?
Do you know how the Sun or Moon were created?
What makes lightning flash the way it does?
Rain chooses its velocity, to be a shower or a heavy pour or a flood.
Tsunamis originate from the deepest parts of the ocean but tell us nothing about it.
Godmen use the power of miracles to prove they are super-human. Maybe they just learn the tricks from a magician.
The actions just unfold, giving us no clue about the mechanics that goes into the making.
We accept that as Power – something to look up at.
It makes us believe that a higher potential exists.
HOW DO WE PRACTISE THIS ART?
Let people see the results, not the effort.
Don’t talk about the number of failed attempts or the accidents, till you’ve reached a stage where you can take pride in it.
Accomplished cooks may recount stories of the initial ‘burnt toast’ or the secret they did not know about baking. But let a newbie talk about it, and you have a plethora of aunts advising her on what she should do. It takes away from all her other accomplishments in life. The focus is on her failure as a cook.
DO YOU FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE ABOUT IT?
This is a problem with many women. They like sharing credit, saying it was a team effort or that it is being overblown. Actually, there’s nothing extraordinary about it.
We may label it as authenticity, but actually we are only undermining ourselves. We work hard for so many things for which we do not get due credit.
Learn to accept compliments and appreciation with grace.
And who says Power is all about Authenticity? It is about creating an aura. The components of the aura may be effortless elegance or talent for some, modesty for some and authenticity for some.
Just ensure that the aura is not diluted, because you feel taking credit for your work is immodest.
Author: Reena Saxena
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